The reason i am going to duscuss self image as the first topic of this book because it is by far the #1 most important subject in this book. If you skip this chapter or neglect how important it is then you might as well skip the whole book. The reason self image us the most important because it makes the whole process of feeling good all possible. With the right self image, you will be “pulled” to utilize all of the principles in this book rather then “forced” to apply them. “Force” which is done through willpower will only get you so far. I want you to have ever lasting results that stick forever so you dont have to keep going back and forth through different personal development books. Self image is all about how you see yourself. How you see yourself in your own mind which effects your relationships, your health, your well being, the actions you take, how you respond to different situations, everything! Whatever you hold in mind, tends to manifest in the outer world which explains the powerful law of attraction. Not only will i talk about the self image but we will go through exercises and a journal you can use to install a positive self image that best serves you. I will even discuss my own so you have an example. I have been inspired to write about self image from a few examples i learned from a great author by the name of Dr. Maxwell Malts book psycho cybernetics and a great self help speaker by the name of Bob Proctor. Both of these great teachers explain the power of self image and how it controls 99 percent of the results you get in life.
Right now as we speak, i have created the image of writting this book which will improve the overall well being of people. I thought of sone of the most powerful ways in which have been proven over and over by scientists as well as psychologists to make people feel better. Non of these are made up, they have all been proven to work and will 100 percent work for you garanteed. I created the self image of people becoming generally more happy after reading this book and it in turn makes me happy as well. I have written down my own idea self image on paper, in a journal and i have become as specific as possible. Now i am more then glad to show you how to get simular results. Everytime you get knocked off course you can always referre back to this chapter as well as the journal.
HOW THE SELF IMAGE WORKS
The self image, also known as the self concept, as psychologists like to call it, is all about how you see yourself, which creates all of your thoughts, feelings, actions and behaviors. Believe it or not, but almost everything you have created until this day has been a result of how you see yourself. It is a mental picture we carry with ourselves wherever we go. All of our past life events such as how we grew up, the way we were raised, the way people treated us, the tragic events we experienced, our past failures and successes have all been stored in our self image which we carry with us in the present moment. A good example is a child who had gotten bad grades in his 2nd and 3rd year of school, his teachers and parents begin to call him a failure. Now believing the child is a failure, he then goes through the rest of his education failing classes. Because that is consistant with the self image which was put on to him. As long as the child holds that self image of himself as failure, he will continue to act consistantly with that belief. The self image works on a unconscious level, which explains why all the food choices you make, how you appear to others, the things you say, the things you talk about, how you view the world and generally the overall way you feel. Our minds run like a computer which can be programmed with whatever data we feed it. If we want different results, we will need to change the data. If you are not happy with the way you feel about your overall well being, then we need to let go of your old self image which is making you feel unhappy. Once we program new images and beliefs in your mental faculties, you will experience better results, you will see that everything begins to work in your favor.
Journal your new self image
Now it’s time for you to create a new self image with your own journal. Your new image should idealy be about the person you would like to become. You want to be as specific as possible. The more specific you can be, the faster you will mold into the person you wish to become. I want you to jot down as much as possible, writting down everything from how you want to look, how you want to feel, your attitude towards life and how you expect others to treat you. Write down your new self image in present tense as if it already happened. For each part of your new self, you want to write down at least a page or two for each areas of your life, such as your health, relationships, appearance, attitude, and mindset. Once you have completed the process, you will read what you have written down every day for the next 21 days! I say 21 days because thats how long it takes to install a new habit according to scientists. In the next section i will give you an example of how i have written out my self image in my journal, and from that point on, you should have an idea of how to create your own.
Remove the negative road blocks
It is just as important to remove all the negativity in your life which are blocking your success. Before writting out a new self image, it is important to become aware of the old one or one that has been hindering you. The reason this is important because it helps to add clarity. It makes it easier for you to create the positive self image of yourself. Writing out the what you want to avoid about your new self is like becoming aware of obstacles in the road ahead. In order to make it to your destination successfully, you need to see what is in the road ahead so you will not crash into anything. Make sense? Lets begin!
The. Self Image Journal
Old negative self/Health
These past few years i have filled my body with junk food.
I am always stopping by fast food restaurants which are doing me harm in the long run.
Im too lazy and un-motivated to start eating healthy.
I am low on energy most of the day.
I chug down multiple cups of coffee everyday to get me going
My health is horrible right now from all the bad choices i make
I always go for the burger rather then the salad.
I chose to drink a beer and relax rather then get a good workout in.
Im too lazy too work out
I have been gaining a big belly
I have trouble delaying instant gratification when it comes to being healthy
I feel like crap most of the time.
Old negative self/attitude
I am always focused on what could go wrong rather then what can go right.
I tend to worry quite often
I am fearful of the future
Things never seem to work in my favor
I have failed multiple times in the past.
I have low self esteem
I am uncertain about my future
I always feel frustrated.
I have trouble getting things done
Im scared that i will never amount to nothing
I dont believe i am good enough
My life is never working to my advantage
I have a low level of self confidence and it has been hindering my growth.
Now that you have become aware of your old self image which you would like to change, it is time to let it go and begin to create your idea self. Heres an example
New Self Image/Health
Having a healthy body is just part of who i am.
I see myself becoming healthier and healthier everyday.
I am beginning to feel great in my body.
I feel amazing with my new healthy habits
I choose to eat nutritious foods that make me feel vital and alive.
I have vitality and a high level of energy
My skin looks amazing
I feel great about myself for making the right food choices.
I look and feel awesome
People notice the great changes i have made through my appearance.
I enjoy eating vegatables and fruits through the day.
Eating healthy makes me feel good
I am thankful for the healthy food choices i am making.
New Self Image/Attitude
My self confidence is always increasing
People always notice how happy i am
My attitude is becoming positive and upbeat
My self worth has went up the roof
I feel proud of my accomplishments
I have developed the mindset of a winner.
My strong positive belief helps me achieve all of my goals
I always see the bright side of things
I am optimistic
I am a motivation and inspiration to others
I am creating more joy and fullfillment each and every day.
People love to be around me because of the positive energy that i radiate
I attract positive circumstances and situations most of the time
I love the person i am and who i am continuing to become.
I radiate joy and peace
I am grateful for who i have become.
This exercise is another way of helping you create your idea self image. The goal is to see yourself as if it had already happened which follows the basic teaching of the law of attraction which states that whatever one holds in mind tends to manifest. Lets give it a go!
Find a quite place to sit, i would not recommend doing this technique while driving. Take a few deep breathes, relaxing all the muscles in your body. For each breath, take 5 seconds to inhail, pause for 3 seconds, then exhail slowly for another 5 seconds. Close your eyes, and imagine you are on the beach alone, looking outwards towards the ocean, pay attention to the sound of the waves, the birds chirping in the sky, the wind blowing in your face, the sun getting ready to set. Picture your feet sinking in the cold sand. Feel the soft gentle breeze on your skin. Now i want you to imagine yourself in perfect health, having achieved all your goals. Picture yourself relaxed and at ease. Imagine you have the house you have always wanted to live in. The spouse you have always dreamed of. Success in your dream job or dream career. Picture yourself as earning the type of income you have always strived for. The positive relationships you have aquired. The ideal body you have always dreamed of, picture it as already completed. Keep smiling. Hold this image for the next 15 minutes and pay attention to how you feel. If you have done this exercise correctly, you should feel amazing.
I hope you have found some amazing value out of these exercises and understand the importance of self image. What is important is how the exersices make you feel. It is the feeling which is most important. If you can get yourself into a good feeling state, you are on your way to manifesting the life you have always desired. Practice these exercises for the next 21 days and you will find yourself walking different, standing taller, your attitude will change into a more healthy and positive one. You will definetly be amazed at the changes you will see from this chapter as well as what you will learn in the others. Continue on and i wish you the best of luck on your journey to well being!